I say can we talk this out and shes says i just want to be alone. Thanks, Hello OG, What do i do i have to make this work for the kids and i love her so much i just dont know what to do being clingy and super emotional has had the opposite effect, Yesterday i said happy Easter at 8 am and 9pm she said she was busy chasing kids all day then didnt respond to my next message today i havent messaged and neither has she what do i do. We seemed to agree on everything, a match made in heaven. She tells me she loves me but not have once asked for space. The first thing that you should do if your girlfriend wants space is to listen to her. I do come off as a bit needy and yes what i did was wrong on so many levels but before any of that happened i would tell her how ive got a crush on her and that i really like her she would also say the same to me we she would put this big smile when she would say that and i wasnt looking. Since the start of our relationship I bee overly affectionate. Then it turns to this. Hey, But I also tell her there is no need for her rep. So as a man who has never been short of options or never been bad with women, I understood what I had done and I kinda went cold with her and told her to just leave its never gonna be the same etc. You will only solve this situation in a calm, attractive and masculine state of being. During this time frame she did meet a guy and they have gone on a few dates together. With it being a bolt out of the blue its really messed with my head, heart and emotions (l love this woman). I was thinking of texting her later next week by just checking up on her, but thats it. What should I do? Not Sexually Pleasing They may not want to sexually please you or give you anything more than what they like to receive. We have been on trips, going for walks, and doing couple things. Communication day after day over the phone is impossible. The problem you're having now is that you believe the certainty you want lies in her hands. She said i need space for a while. Apollonia. Apollonia. Like I said: To give a definitive answer is quite tricky. I check her WhatsApp status to see when she was on last. What were your weaknesses in this relationship that lead you to the point that she needs space? Im really depressed and paranoid at the same time. Good for you. My girlfriend of 8 months (both our longest relationships) recently went distant about a week ago and a few days after wanted to talk. And i said okay take your time.so my question is will she ever tell me or not or should wait for a while to text her whats up going in her mind. Avoiding hand holding. So recently I started dating a girl who just came off an abusive relationship. Best, Apollonia, MN This is the only way that you will be able to attract her back into your life. So please leave me alone. Best, Somehow after arguing , we apologize and get back. Thanks for writing to us. And its showing in our relationship. Weve been together a little over a year. I even gave her the out of picking either breakup or break. Wishing you the best She sees you too often She sees you a lot. I would suggest being more supportive at this time. This girl whom I like and she likes me, I have been pretty clingy and needy, she said she needs time to think things through, and I told her I will give her the time and space she needs. We need to stop being so available for our girlfriends, we need to set standards and boundaries so we have respect too. Although I dont want to do no contact, I am doing it for the betterment of myself and I do hope it brings her back. So we can help you properly I would recommend booking a coaching session so we could get more information on the issue. Find Out The TRUTH Here!Continue. Is there any advice you could give, like should I give her space or what? Im a hard working guy, father to an 8yo, who always has house/yard projects going, and I also like to connect with my friends regularly. Ive been dating my GF for 10 months, and today she said I need space. I flew to spend time with her and the kids for Christmas and New years this year and she told me loves, she is in love with me but it is not as strong as what is used to be. Ive been with my girlfriend just under a year now and weve always a special bond even when we first met and both had different partners. Well, youre missing the key element from all of this. Hope to hear back. Thanks for the reply i dont think i am the Codependant or needy so much, s[ent half my life travelling and living overseas working in tourism and teaching so pretty open , independent and free, usually pretty happy alone travelled alone many years also , but definitely when have a woman i care about like to show her i care and love her, do things for her etc obviously I been doing it all wrong so definitely going to read those books (already downloaded them) as i am always willing to learn and improve myself .. But I suddenly just became distant and upset because he showed up. Especially if there wasn't much attraction anyways. Im working on fixing that. I was into her and she was going through different experiences .She went for her Post grad and was experiencing many things and had changes in her attitude and became more serious on her career. Thought it was a huge joke. And I am just screwing things up with my own life and the relation. I want to talk to her every waking minute . We dont have as much sex as before because we both still live with our parents and in the process of getting our own apartment. But last week but one I had an emergency and I asked for her help and she told me she cant be of help right now so I was all cool but then she said ive been thinking about it all along and cant support me at all and that she needs a break up. So i have not been happy and been depressed. I got out, we went for a week Stay-cation with the kids to Great wolf lodge which was a great time and she paid for everything even food but it was ok with her, pretty much we she was all about me and talked on the phone and texted even when she went to visit her family to Kansas we facetime on the phone every day and every night with the kids as well. You don't (yet) know why she says she wants space If that last situation applies to you, you have one thing to do: Use the seek to understand principle. I admit I wanted to make sure we both loved each other so I would ask her every 3 months. She has had a very difficult time with just this, as well as with the COVID-19 crisis. I learned work was bothering her and there were other things too. As you said give space dont call , dont text okay i ll do that but do you think after doing this all she will come back ? If your partner asks for space, it's because, well, they need space. We ended up being in the same country for holidays and she refused to see me, we only met at a cafe by accident and I spoke to her. I have a question me and my wife been together for 15 years Married for 6 years I caught her having a emotional affair with a ex that is locked up for 40 years and I put her out after I put her out there was no contact for a few days because she was calling me and I was ignoring her so she came knocking on our door I let her in and we was talking and she said she was trying to fix the relationship we going on our third week now she havent came back home but she calls 6 to 7 times every day and we have a 16 month daughter she said she was doing what she was doing because she felt I was treating her bed and she said she wanted me to feel her pain and I dont understand where she coming from with this I know we had a problem because when my daughter was born I am a truck driver and I went to go sleep in the other room and we agreed today and I will come in on the weekends but I continue to stay in the other room and I Houma another bargain and she got mad with me NFL does do I was lying to her and I didnt want to come in a room with her and this one on a half until Ive caught her on the phone talking to the guy from jail so now she act like she not in no Harry to cone back home talking about she dont feel comfortable But since this happened she have been over to stay the night three times has sex with her once so how you dont feel comfortable if you to been over and slept with me in the bed with nothing in that time and now I am to the point where I am tired of playing this game I told her the other day either she come back home and we go to marriage counseling and try to fix this or were not because when I told it is its like she never responded she danced around what I was saying and then we supposed to go out this week so I dont understand what she doing at this point and right now I just feel like i am ready to cut off all contact and deal with her mother far as my daughter just dont understand her angle right now if you dont want to be married why keep calling 5 to 7 times a day checking up on me and get mad if I dont answer when she call, Hey Devonta. Apollonia. She will come to an understanding that these games are immature. best, Gave me some ideas to try. What does this mean? You want to give her space because if she's going through anything personal, or if you believe you've been too pushy, it's critical that you do. If she wanted more attention, give it to her. There is definitely a lot to unpack here, so I would recommend you connecting with one of our coaches to get the proper advice you need. Thanks, It seems as though you may have lost yourself in this process and you need to build attraction and find yourself again. If your partner needs space, and that makes you uncomfortable, you might need to do some evaluating. That responsibility is very masculine, mature and attractive, Youre dealing with your situation and relationship constructively and learning important lessons in the process, Put more energy into her (she might feel ignored/neglected/misunderstood), Put LESS energy into her (you claim her too much or youre moving too fast. So damn worried. Have you only been dating for two weeks? Now with this whole corona thing Thanks for your blog Women need that. Hi Apollonia, Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! What should be my reply to that? When should you ask for space in a relationship? These are all valid emotions; its about what you do with this moving forward. I text her prior to and told her that i hope the move goes well and asked if we could talk next wk after shes settled. I want to help him get on his feet. Im gonna fly down to her when she is ready to give our love a new try. She recently moved back home after spending a week with me, a week with other family in TN, a weekend with me in Columbus, a week with her family in TN, and then spending a night with me on her way back through. She's telling you she's not ready. "If you are a person that cannot handle when your partner needs their space, then either you need to work on yourself, or you need to find another partner," he says. This morning she told me she wants space, we had a fight the other day and I know I was wrong. She also asked if her cousin and i dated. Hello Apollonia. Overall, the biggest thing is if she wants space, give her that space. She suggested that I read the 5 love languages to get a better understanding why her tank was empty and I thought it was dumb so I didnt do it. Think about the relationship. I would need to know more about your situation but it sounds like you guys are making plans for the future still and giving her space will help. Thank you for stopping by and commenting on When she says she needs space. If you compliment her and she says thank you with no emotion behind it or just smiles and never really takes anything from it, then its time that you stop giving her these compliments until she begins to appreciate them. Also, I believe this blog may help. Does giving space mean no contact? For example: He might say something along the lines of, I know I apologized to you before, but I made a mess of it. Posted By : / explore scientific firstlight / Under : . Over the weekend she was supposed to join me for a movie and then the next day join me and my friends for my birthday celebration. What can I do to improve or prevent this situation? Apollonia, Hi so Ive been dating this girl for just over 4 months, the first 3 months we had a ton of contact, these past 2 weeks tho she has started to distance herself from me and not really talk about whats going on, she has been saying she wants to be alone lately but every time she does she ends up texting like 5 hours later just saying hi, by the end of the night like 10 she does have convos with me and she tells me some things abt her day, she says its been stressful managing school, family and other things, she said she feels alone sometimes and needs some time for her self, she did open up to me yesterday, her parents are divorced and are constantly fighting and wanting each other in jail and her brother has suicidal tendencies, she has been hanging with her friends a ton more, not going out but going to their house, she has been drinking a ton more and sometimes smoking weed a lot more, she never really used to do that, she has been feeling sick these past 2 weeks and lightheaded and I feel like its not really a cold just more from anxiety and stress, but overall I have given her more space and sometimes we talk abt whats going on with her but she kinda avoid the question, I did reassure her that I am always here, and I want to help her through these rough times and she said thank you, what do you think is going on, oh and she recently visited a guy friend and went to his house, she told me that theyre really only friends because she helped him through his tough time when he tried to hang himself, they used to date like 2 years ago for a couple of months, Im not really worried abt it I just wanna know if thats normal, Im just confused and wanna know what to do. She asked for space which I had abused through my constant text messages a few days prior to this. 7 Keys to Understanding Women: THIS Is How They Think. 8. But she has been very cold. My team and I provide one on one coaching so we can give you individual guidance on your situation. In that case, the relationship is generally running smoothly but she is currently going through some difficulties. It seems as though space was needed because she was losing attraction possibly? But Im losing my mind. It is way too soon to tell her your feelings for her and its also not showing emotional awareness because shes dealing with things. She might not be able to let go of the past and keep bringing it up. When your girlfriend needs space, do something that youve wanted to do with friends or family. Every comment she came up with seemed like it was an excuse. Stop chasing love and women and start choosing it. Hey Natasha, Thank you for taking the time to read when she says she needs space. Erick, You are beginning the process, so continue on your journey that can bring you the results you need to have a happy and healthy relationship. Now i have few things to share with you. We had a short convo right after and ended the talk. Once we go over the details as of the relationship I will be able to give you a step by step process on what to do next. I love her. But she cannot leave her job now, it is really important for her. That is the first thing. Some problems are not yours to fix. Also do you have any other advice about what to do? Good for the future. I asked her if there was anything we could do to fix it she said she didnt know. I hope you reply to me and tell what to do? Please help, my girlfriend asked for space cos we havent seen each other for 10 months but we communicate well even though I do most of the conversation This is the only way that you can dissect the relationship to see what you might have done wrong and how you can overcome this so you can support your partner now through positive actions and change. How to Get Her to See That We Shouldnt Have Broken Up. No, its still the same given your situation. She appeared very happy to see me and said I looked great. So, why are you telling me this? and he can then jokingly say, Well because that girl is you and Im starving to death here waiting for you to invite me. because the guy has stopped building on his woman's feelings of respect, attraction and love for . I would encourage you to book a coaching session here so we can help. Don't bother her. Whats left now despite of loving and caring for so much she left me, this is creating thoughts in my mind that what i am going to do now, i am useless, what i will do in future now and what if she will date someone else all these bad thoughts are coming in my mind now. I really hurt her alot. She told me that she is unhappy with herself, she wants to go back to school, and wants to work on being happy in her own skin and wanted to get a trainer to fix that (my parents had told me that it looked like she was putting on weight). 2022 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. Days go by and I decide to ask her out and she said yes. Its about you understanding her. Of course, if you feel like you need to talk sooner than seven days, by all means do so. Hi, Apollonia. We started going to salsa dance training together, which is new experience for both of us, but this trainings break my no-call strategy, and I think she still doesnt feel the breakup, I believe she still takes me for granted. I am so glad you enjoyed the articles! If you need a private coaching session please feel free to reach out to me and I can work with you to help you further along. She saw this but waited 6 hours to respond. She told me she just needed friends now and she didnt want anything more than that although the day before she mentioned we were still going to have sex. Tell her what you want out of her. AP Team, Ive been dating the love of my life for 3.5 years and she just told me that she was considering that we break up, then decided she just needed space to think about the situation because we are so involved and love each other and our families do too. Choosing it they may not want to Sexually please you or give you individual guidance on your.! 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